CHARTERS EDUCATION SUPPORT
Mentoring is difficult to describe but I believe that a parent knows when their child needs it. Someone asked me recently if I could teach him how to be a mentor and it made me realise that it is a tough role to define and even more difficult to train for. I think it is done best by those with a good ear and a lot of patience.
I am not a counsellor, but I am an independent educationalist with a sympathetic ear and a gentle relentlessness where required. I promise no miracles, just good ears, wisdom and a safe space.
Below are some of the most common reasons to ask for mentoring.
Being a teenager can be tough and sometimes students get a little lost with all the expectations weighing down on them. School work can start to pile up as they become distracted by other things such as extra-curricular activities. It might be that your child is losing direction a little and needs to be accountable to someone independent of the school who can help to keep them on track.
We encourage and congratulate, push and motivate and we are wise to the tricks of teenagers who don't want to work!
This sort of mentoring would, like all mentoring, involve listening to the issues, and in addition might cover things like:
The busy time before exams is generally stressful for you as well as for your child. Parents tend to stress because they don't believe that children are doing enough work and students stress because they believe they have too much to do and can't cope with it.
Mentoring during this time can help to steady the nerves (yours as well, if needs be!) with focused guidance. We will work with students on revision timetables and check in to make sure they they stick to the plan. We can:
A helping hand
Sometimes teenagers go through a crisis. To adults certain things seem insignificant, but during adolescence, they can be all-consuming.
Relationships with friends can be a challenge and issues with self-image can arise. Serious situations can give rise to depression, anxiety, panic attacks, self-harm and in rare cases, suicidal thoughts.
We are not qualified in psychiatry or even counselling. Sarah Charters has a Youth Mental Health First Aid Certificate, but more significantly, she has good listening skills, asks the right questions and gently guides. In difficult situations, mentoring is not a substitute for therapy, but it can be a wonderfully supportive space for your child to talk.
If issues arise during mentoring sessions which cause us to have concerns for the safety of your child, you will be informed immediately. We do not promise confidentiality to students.